I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. My first husband cheated on me and left me and our then 13 year old son because I was 'too hard to live with' and he couldn't take it anymore. I wasn't diagnosed at the time, but looking back I understand now why I was so hard to live with.

I agree about finding a good divorce attorney. My father is an attorney and the unfortunate truth is regardless of what your husband is saying now, if he changes his mind or gets mad at you one day all it takes is a call to social services to have your fitness as the primary caretaker to the kids investigated by the court, and that is a nightmare. My sister r ally screwed over her ex husband by saying he was abusive to her and their kids (he wasn't, he was very devoted to their family. She got caught cheating and didn't want to own up to it) and DSS got involved and despite them finding no concrete evidence of abuse my sister got sole legal and physical custody of the kids. He hasn't seen them in almost 8 years.

I'm not saying this will happen to you, I'm just saying it's always best to be totally prepared and protect yourself. Even if both parties have good intentions starting out, there is always the potential for things to go awry. Good luck. I hope things work out for you.