I struggle with feeling like I rupture my relationships with my kids, too.

Reading about attachment theory is a suggestion that I'll make as I'm seeing how it can help with that guilt feeling that plagues parents, especially parents that want to be intune with their children.

Says that we only get it right 50% of the time. But an intune, sensitive parent will work at repairing those rupture moments(feeling of not getting where we want to be), and that attempt is what makes the difference.

Your trying, reaching out is what I find much respect for. It weighs on you. It's hard, but it makes a difference. You're the right mom for her.

Hope that helps