I know deep down I do have resentment for my kids. I really hate admitting to that. I know that if I didn't have kids I'd be free to walk out of my marriage. So now I feel trapped.
But those are my issues & I try hard not to think about it when I have to be mom. That's difficult.

My husband is involved with the parenting. Last wk we had a chance to see DD therapist alone. So we could look at our parenting skills. Again were on opposite ends of the spectrum. His fall back answer is always "I don't remember anything about my childhood..." Therefore he can't understand her.
I don't get that, think it's a line of crap, Bec he works w/HS age kids. He HAS to understand them a bit.
Me on the other hand, I remember my childhood extremely well & can understand their emotional turmoil. But am I projecting??? I just try to be sympathetic so she knows I understand how she feels.

He says he feels great pressure when our kids come to him for an answer. That his job is to have all the answers. That's the way his dad was.
I'm the opposite. I wanto be able to answer a question for them, but to also be able to say "you know, I don't have an answer for you." Then maybe help them find an answer or let them figure it out on their own. They need to know that I'm fallible.

We've very different values & parenting skills & styles. His are a bit parochial. Mine are kind of laid back. But we've always been on opposite sides of everything. Now I think the kids are getting old enough to start to see that.