I agree that there's a lot of emphasis on the relationship in therapy in general.

But, I'm not sure core shame can ever be healed through a relationship (with a therapist or anyone else).

I honestly don't have any data to back it up but in examining myself, I can't imagine a relationship with anyone (no matter how positive, consistent etc) is going to make a difference.

And, of course in something as complex and deep-rooted as shame, it's incredibly hard personally to wrap my head around the idea of having someone who's a paid professional -- which does not necessarily preclude their caring (I do for instance believe that my T cares about me and I can point to specific instances) -- help me really root out something that fundamental.

Then again, I freely acknowledge that the way I do / perceive therapy may be very different from others who believe otherwise.

ETA: The hesitation I have around the paid professional bit may largely be in part because my brain can't get around the idea that they're paid professionals. So, someone else to who it doesn't matter may feel otherwise and get going on it without any hassles.