I'm sorry that you're going through stuff right now; it's tough to feel unsettled and have so much on your plate.

I do second what Molinit said. My general motto in life is that I don't make commitments unless I mean to keep them. That goes for anything from hanging out with a friend to signing a lease on an apartment. It's part of being an adult, mental illness, disability, or no. People don't tend to tolerate when commitments are broken repeatedly; I have a friend who is a nice person, but she can be quite a flake, and it's frustrating.

References are required for lots of things; apartments, jobs, heck...when I went to volunteer at the local no-kill cat shelter, I had to provide references. Just something to think about.