I am so very sorry for what you are dealing with. I don't really know what to do. It sounds terrible. For me it would be a deal breaker. Both smoking and not working. Do you have kids?

My fiancées ex wife never could hold a job, or just wouldn't get one and now he pays huge spousal support. Judge said he can't force her to work but she is given set number of years to get one but until then we pay her. A lot. We aren't rich. She is same age as us. We work and she doesn't. He even paid for her college degree when they were married in hopes she gets a job and and still wouldn't.

So be careful and protect yourself.

My colleague is married to a guy who doesn't work going on for 5 years. My friend has a daughter in law who wouldn't work and husband had to declare bankruptcy and she still wouldn't work.

Apparently it's common. Awful. Sorry I wouldn't live like this. StAy strong

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