I couldn't figure out why my Ex H couldn't communicate until I put the pieces together & realized he was ASD (Asperger's). Didn't know until 7 years after leaving him. Therapy was useless because the unDx'ed Asperger's made the therapy communication useless also & in those days Aspergers was just becoming known about in some areas.

When I would confront him on things, silence was a typical way of responding..found out that is normal for many with ASD.