For me, talking about it absolutely helped me and yes, I did need to talk about it. I have had what I'd label a severe attachment disorder -- the fearful, avoidant kind. I've avoided intimate, meaningful, adult relationships of every kind my entire life. It shocked the hell out of me to discover that I loved my t. I had no idea how to deal with that, it was making me even more crazy than I already was, and I definitely needed to talk to her about it. It wound up being rewarding because telling someone, "I love you" and talking about feelings that I have for them (and vice versa) has helped me grow immensely as a human being, has significantly decreased my attachment issues, and has helped open the doors to forming healthy, "normal," deeply meaningful relationships with other adults. It was all worth the risk. Turns out there is something to that "people need people" theory!