Thank-you all. Sorry it took so long for me to reply. Also, we both live in different states....I don't live that far away though. About 40 minutes away. So would I go by his state's law-esp since it happened there? This is so hard and complicated. I want to just put it on the shelf and walk away, but I know I can't. See, a big problem is...I feel two ways about the abuse. One being angry and sad that it happened, and the other one denying it and thinking what if I'm wrong?? My sister was going to bring her son over there last summer and that's when I told her about it...before only my father, brother, and aunt knew. What pisses me off more than a lot of things is when people know abuse is going on and either deny it or ignore it. That's happened to me in both cases....with my father being physically and emotionally abusive and the family friend with sexual abuse. With the family friend I knew that his sons atleast knew....they saw it a few times on accident-as they walked by the room or that. And I don't want to be that person that knows it could be happening but chooses to ignore it, but then so many other thoughts come in and it's soo complicating. I know I need to do this though. To me I believe if someone knows and doesn't do anything that they are partly guilty. If I had 100% proof that I knew he did it to me and was doing it again it would be so much easier. But like my t said...I probably will never have that. And he's not going to tell me he did it just to ease my doubts.

Sorry for rambling. Thank-you all for your replies. And, no, nobody offended me.

~flier