Oh TJ. {{hug}}

No doubt at all that you need to protect yourself -- in all respects. This person has already had a quite negative impact on your personal, private world -- internally and externally (imo o'course).

Me, I'm w/ yr wife on this: I think it would be absolutely truthful and correct to simply say, "We have had some adverse experiences in the past, and neither my wife nor I are comfortable giving out any further info re our location. We have an agreement that we will neither of us do this."

I think that covers the situation, right?

As far as she possibly showing up at the same occupational counselling center, yeah that's potentially sticky. but at least the staff there are aware that there was a problem in the past, and should it arise again, they have the info to hopefully be able to backstop you and divert her away? I hope?

Pls take care of yourself. This person is sounding more and more like a serious pest.
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xo

Chyia, worried for you