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Old Apr 27, 2016, 08:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick View Post
I have started with a new T and its online therapy as my current T is closing her practice. I am finding it hard to trust she won't abandon me like all the horror stories I have read on here. She has promised me she isn't going anywhere. How do you trust that someone new wont really hurt and/or abandon you? Are promises like that dangerous?
I don't think a promise is dangerous, necessarily, but I would take it for what it is--an intention based on current circumstances.

When I started with my current therapist, I had lost a whole support team that fell to the side one by one, for various reasons (mostly moving and death). She pumped an arm muscle when I pointed out that she was the only one left standing. I took it to be a sign of endurance. That's really the most I (or you) can ask for--are they up for it and, barring any catastrophes, are they in it for the long haul?

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's a loss unlike any other.
Thanks for this!
Cinnamon_Stick