I'd never really call what my own T does withholding. Just giving space. If I'd wanted more reassurance I could have gone and sat by her and she would have somehow comforted me. I chose not to myself because I knew i had to work the feelings through.

On the phone or by text she may not say what I wish she would but she always reassures me that she is there if I need her and loves me.

She is incredibly attuned to me and knows what I need a great deal of the time. I think she always validates MY feelings. But when my feelings are confused she doesn't impose hers on me.