Hi Ruari,

Thank you for clarifying. My problem is that I take personal responsibility to the other extreme, hence the nature of my post being paranoid that I'm doing wrong by others. The unfortunate part of this forum too is that it's difficult to give the full layout and spectrum of any given situation. I, myself, tend to be codependent and feel responsible for others emotions and I realize now that my post was my codependent traits coming out, worrying too much how other people feel and trying to control that. But you can't control how other people feel. Someone pointed out to me, and I think they were right, that I didn't burn the bridge with the roommate. I tried to keep the friendship going, but she didn't want that. I think that this is accurate. I was willing to recognize that the roommate thing didn't work out between us but we could still be friends, but she felt like she couldn't move past our roommate issues. I am friends with nearly all my past roommates.

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