Women are addicted to attraction. It is everything to them. It is more important than compatibility, integrity, kindness, etc. It is sad. Narcissistic men with a lot of testosterone get the sexual juices flowing. But then women want to civilize them and it doesn't happen. Women are torn. I read two polls in a magazine once. In the first poll women were asked what they wanted from men. A lot of the women said they wanted a man who could express his emotions. In the back of the magazine there was another poll in which women were asked what they hated about their man and they said, "I hate it when he cries." What is a guy supposed to do? I guess, be masculine in the beginning to get the juices flowing and then bring on the sensitivity. Some women had narcissistic fathers and are attracted to men like that. My father was a "wounded" man so I was always attracted to men who had a history of being wounded and needed someone to take care of them. Women need to get their priorities straight and stop picking guys just because they are sexy and rough around the edges. Compatibility, honesty, integrity, kindness, self-awareness, communication skills. This is what I look for in a man. It turns me on just to get along with someone. At my age pleasure is the absence of pain.