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Originally Posted by Mondayschild
If this was the wife here asking for help then it would be okay to side with her. As it is, it isn't the wife it is a member of this community and she is hurting and lonely and asking for help. She didn't ask if what she was doing was wrong or immoral. Certainly the wives could be hurting and the men are jerks, but that isn't going to help her face her loneliness.
We don't know the wives or the men, we just know that this human came for help.
*life is a beautiful lie*
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I agree that this thread has derailed a lot and I am ashamed to say that I am responsible for part of it focusing in on the adultery side of things. I had to go back to the original post to realize how far it has gone from the intent shown in that post.
She has not said anything about asking whether she is doing anything wrong or right (I think it was subsequent posts that directed it that way) in fact in her op she implies that she knows something is off and is more seeming to ask how to get on a path that would make her happier and more satisfied.
@OP
I apologize for my part in the derailing here. I think that the posts that address you asking why you might be going after married men may be the best way to figure out what it is you're looking for, what it is that these married men have that you believe is more attractive. Of course assuming you know you'd probably be better off with a single person, maybe it's all about the fact that you may feel that a single guy may expect a commitment right away and that's what you fear? just assumption here but I dont' think out of left field.
figure out what it is that is good about the relationships or hookups/flings with married men. Then from there see if you can find a more appropriate partner that can give you those things.
