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Originally Posted by here today
I'll trust that my current T understands some things about dissociation in a theoretical or intellectual way. I trust that she will be in her office at my appointment time unless she notifies me otherwise. I do not trust that she cares about me in any personal way and in fact I don't believe that she does.
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My last one did care about me personally, and then the relationship became ambiguous and felt like it meant more than it did or ever could, which resulted in a string of crushing blows, concluding with the realization that she did not care in the way I wanted, which made it relatively easy to get rid of me. OTOH, I cant see spilling my guts about my most painful sht in the presence of someone who did not care and was in the role of detached observer. Hence, I don't know how I could ever do therapy again.
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Originally Posted by Pennster
My therapist didn't tell me he would teach me to rid myself of shame - just to clarify in case you were thinking that was my situation. (I'm a little unclear as to whether you were referring to me.) I don't regard it as my therapist's job to "teach" me anything.
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Sorry didnt meant to imply that, I was thinking more generally about Ts who focus on technique and who might approach core shame that way, maybe along the lines of CBT with assumption that faulty thinking is the issue and it can be corrected. I still think humans heal via healthy relationships primarily, and in particular those that are reciprocal.