Hmmmm, my T is trying to get me to see that I need people too. This stuff actually came up this week, because I e-mailed my T after our session because I had coped poorly, and she suggested going to an AA meeting to help cope outside of therapy. I reacted badly, freaked out that she hated me e-mailing her, and was going to give me "the talk" next week about how i need to learn how to cope on my own, and stop effing bothering her!

She wrote back that she doesn't think neediness is disgusting and un-adult like (as i put it), just the opposite. That she needs people, and if she is a burden to them with her neediness, she will go blissfully unaware until told otherwise. She said "You need people too," and said how I am not a burden to her, and she loves her job.

Sigh. It made me cry! Nooooo....feeeellinnggsss...yuucckkk.

Echos: For me, e-mailing works because I KNEW i would never be able to say that all to her in person, and she seems ok with it.