maybe it is a rescuing thing. guys who behave as arrogant assholes DO tend to have been wounded. there is this notion that if only we love them enough then we can cure them. a lot of females spend their early childhoods reading the cues of other people and sacrificing their own needs and preferences and emotions for the needs and preferences and emotions of others. maybe the idea is that... 'only i understand him' and... 'only i can cure him' and... 'if i love him enough then he will be healthy and love me forever and ever and ever' and ta da there is a happy ending.

only... it doesn't tend to work out that way. maybe because... the people who are drawn to these wounded people tend to be the people who are wounded themselves and the pathology is enacted over and over and over again...

no limits...
no love...