well.. about meeting someone, i think its easy for any/all of us to go out with unrealistic expectations...
some people believe in love at first sight, i do not... i believe there may be chemistry and lust, infatuation and excitement...
but we have to develop friendship with this person before we can love them.. love is to have that friend tht will be by your side through thick and thin...
this kind of thing doesnt spark over one glance, or a few beers...
maybe it does for some, i dont know - i wont say it doesnt; i just dont believe in it...

so i think what is important, is not that you go out in search of this soul mate.. but in search of compatible friends, people that you can spend time with and get to know, people that want to spend time with you and get to know you...
sometimes what we are searching for is right in front of us, but we cant see it for the desire to look far and wide for that which we seek... thinking that it must be out there, and not in here...

i am not versed in relationships, social interaction, even friendships or love...
i have fallen in love, and maybe the love was mutual, but it was not compatible and it burned to the ground along with me.. to be honest i dont think she loved me the way i loved her, which is part of the problem we face when searching for a lasting soul mate...

i know how it is to desire this now, to feel that time is running out and that we haven't the time to do these things.. that we need to just have it all right now... so that we can rest assured that we will be with that person indefinitely, but i think these are the things that we often fall into believing unrealistically... the fantasy is lovely, sweet, and full of bliss; but reality is full of disappointment, misleading cues, unrealistic expectations, desires, and hopes..
what we have to do is take the few things we can from the fantasy and apply it to the reality.. but with caution, because sometimes things we think we want are not what we want but a byproduct ...

i wish it was easy, i wish it wasn't like this at all - the way society has created these games that we have to play in order to find a mate, to find love even

but i guess its not... the important thing is for your happiness, for you to enjoy the ride, to take it easy... to not expect but to let things happen...

i dont really have good advice, but just the things that i hear in my head.. i cant speak from experience, but just from the matrix i live in... scenarios that i have lived in my mind...
i dont know how good it is to say any of these things, and i dont want you to take what i say as true because i dont know what truth is
i just want you to be able to relax, to allow the chance of meeting compatible friends that could evolve into more, try not to think about love at first sight... i think that is full of disappointment...

i dont wanna post these things because i dont like saying things i think, but maybe you can take something from my twisted words...
i really do wish you happiness, beauty is in the eye of the beholder - god speed...