Thanks for all your thoughts everyone, I really appreciate it.
healingme4me - I agree, there's a lot of projection going on with me. I guess it's hard for me to figure out what is just my projection and what T's motivations are. I suppose I can't read her mind! Probably most judgement comes from myself, you are right.
Maybe her motivations were just to confirm, as many people say. That makes sense! Not sure if I'll bring it up with her but maybe I'll be more careful if I have marks on my skin in future.