Quote:
Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I get that you would have liked him to address the feelings you spoke of in your letter, BUT, he wouldn't have responded if he didn't reciprocate them, and sometimes people (like my bf who are so self assured) thinks everyone else (including people like us) knows what they're intentions are because its implied in their sincerity. It's so simple for them, 1+1=2. Where as we need the equation spelt out for us.
I seriously seriously doubt he would have replied at all of he did not reciprocate your feelings.
He knows you, he knows that doing so would be tantamount to leading you on.
So I say, the plan to chill and take it easy, go with the flow is a good one.
|
I think you are right.
Thanks for not saying, "Well, guys can be clueless, maybe he's not thinking, etc etc etc..." Sometimes that's the case. As I've said, he has a kind heart. It is possible that he is leading me on, but it is not intentional by any means. Also, guys aren't any more or less clueless than girls, imo.
I think I also need to plan to actually speak with him more than text or FB message. It's a lot more convenient and conducive to chatting more frequently (especially when we're both work-weary), but hearing his voice is much more calming, maybe because it's more personal to me. And also, this may be silly, but he's got a slow, steady, low way of speaking. The Tennessee accent helps, too.
Maybe not if you're from the south, but to this Northerner, it's oddly soothing.
PS Trippin, I know you're from South Africa so maybe you don't know exactly what I mean. But maybe you do, just with a different accent.
Idk, everyone has their thing. His is redheads--I happen to be one--mine is accents. It's a win-win.