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Old Apr 29, 2016, 04:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Ruari View Post

Oh, we talked about the level of communication.

I said I didn't need to talk everyday(((ruh roh and nooooooo. ))))

, I just needed to know we were on the same page, basically. That, and a "good morning" is really nice. He said, "It sure is. I just got busy with things today." I told him this wasn't about that at all (((yeah it is--saying this like your best friend in the world type of reaction...it IS about daily contact. It is about displaying that you're thought of!)))


(I guess it is, but...) He said he didn't think it was. Really, I've had questions since we started talking.

Trying to play it cool. Trying to lower my expectations((((nooooooo....don't lower, gets one feeling like you don't matter, because you do matter!!!))))


. I've just always been awful at this. Awful. That's what that other "I feel hopeless" thread is about. I'm being really hard on myself. I've never had any relationship last longer than a year. I don't really even know how to do this. I feel confident in myself in every other way except for how to interact with someone I think is awesome. And how to trust, work out conflict, and just freaking chill (yes, my T and I are actively working on this).
Added some comments in there in ((()))) parentheses..