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A bit yeah... she puts me in awkward situations verbally as I don't know (perhaps down in part to my ASD) the best way to respond without dropping a clanger. In addition to that, things had come to point where she was becoming very suffocating... however strange this might sound... like I was the only man/person in her life and if I didn't correspond to her expectations she would have a massive melt down.
What's worse is that I didn't really recognize it progressing to that level... it was my wife who pointed it out... and as far as I'm concerned, my wife is my world. I don't want anything to jepodise that... likewise, I have become uncomfortable with the notion of being alone with this woman... a kind of fear that she could go bat **** and throw accusations my way. Truth is, I would never do anything inappropriate... but the fear of being wrongly accused if I wasn't to do what she wanted, worries me... I know this is a fear that hasn't happened and is probably irrational... but it's there. Is part of the reason I suppose I have kept acknowledging her.... just writing this just feels so stupid and I hope that it doesn't offend anyone. I think people from both genders are capable of manipulation, so I am not trying to insinuate that she might do this because she's a woman.... I think it's more the opposite gender situ... and could easily be vise versa.
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Nothing offensive about that at all ToeJam, I think others on this thread have used the word 'manipulation' and I agree she does sound manipulative whether she is aware of this or not.
As a married man you could always use this as your 'get out' to distance from her, say something like you don't feel it's appropriate to spend time alone with another woman as you are married, that's perfectly reasonable. Or that you are going through challenges yourself and can't give your time.