My boyfriend and I have been together for three years this month. In all honesty, ive been struggling with the thought that things arent going to work out for the last year. When we first got together I discovered that he has unresolved emotional issues and blows up in a verbally abusive rage from time to time. I was so enamoured with his good qualities that i told myself that I would stay the course and be understanding and hopefully be his rock and encourage him to help himself. Flash forward three years. I'm at the end of my rope. His rages have really done a lot of damage to my self confidence, my trust of him, and my feelings of closeness. He blew up at me two months ago, and I told him flat out that if he wouldnt go to counseling and show me that he was willing to work on it that I was going to have to leave.

He has no health insurance, so he needed to fill out paperwork first. He gave me the whole speach about how serious he was about it etc, but its been two months and the paperwork for insurance isnt even filled out.

Ive heard excuses such as "my baby mamas wont give me my sons SS#, so i cant finish the paperwork" "im working too hard" "im tired" "they were closed"

Im getting angrier and angrier at him as time goes on. If i were in his shoes and wanted to keep the relationship, I would be on it the next day. I can barely be around him lately because all my feelings are going to come out like word vomit because Im holding it all in. I want to have a conversation with him about it but im afraid it will set him off.

What do you guys think???