Hi PerpetualPain! Welcome to PC! Interesting situation. Many t's have loose boundaries, but, it seems like your t's boundaries are too loose. Self-disclosure should only ever be offered if the information relates to, and is helpful to the client. If your t is giving up unrelatable, irrelevant info about herself to you a lot, that is a red flag.

As for the touch, it is always advisable for a t to ask the client for permission to touch them before doing so. So if your t did not ask for permission to touch, that is a red flag as well.

As for the good looking comments, kisses and winks in texts, and presents...it's hard to say whether or not all of that is within good boundaries (not enough info, nor am I familiar with customs in England). It could be a case of an older lady that is just the affectionate, lovey-dovey type. Maybe not. Regardless, if you don't like it, you need to advise her to stop at once.

Given you feel she has a crush on you, is flirty with you, and say you have reasons for your suspicions, I would venture to take a good guess that your t is behaving highly inappropriately with you, and that this is not normal for a therapist. Always trust your instincts. I hope you can find a way to bring up this topic to your t as it should definitely be discussed. Stay safe!