Jinny, From my own experience, I envied my kids for the mother they had and I didn't. Not that I was that perfect. I expected them to validate me because my sense of worth was so little.

Just because I entered therapy, that didn't fix everything over night. It takes a long time to change and it takes those outside of us a long time to relate to the person we begin to become.

We are the adults first, children will always be ungrateful and moody, thats just the way it goes, but you can choose to not react to it and gradually they will learn to relax also.

It doesnt matter whose right or whose wrong, its how we react to life. Do we want to be right or be happy?

Take care.