I have read many of your posts, Artchic, and tried to answer in a kind way...as have many others because the people are very kind here.

I want you to feel better, too, but I seem to fail a lot. Perhaps because I am overly concise and it comes across as being a bit rude...

Taking your other posts into consideration, I think you might want to look at how people DO communicate online. It's not the same as in person. There is no voice inflection or facial expressions to help you (or them) along. So you have to allow for that. So do they.

You can't do anything about them, but you can maybe "overcompensate" with your conversations. Being concise can (as I have mentioned) come across differently than how we mean it to....and not in a good way. Perhaps you could read some posts or blogs and see how you, yourself respond to them? And see HOW they are saying those things that give you positive vibes...

Speaking of positive vibes, there are ways of saying "I'm not interested"...without offense. This guy told you he was attracted to a specific look, then he told you that a long distance relationship wasn't for him. Those are both nicer ways of saying the same thing. He simply was not interested. And that's fine. It doesn't make him a "dickwad" or a "jerk"....it just makes him a guy with a limited means of communication, trying to let you down in as kind a way as he can.

So reading and understanding what is said, (and what isn't said), does take some skill. So does writing in a manner that conveys how pleasant you really are.

I wish you all the best.