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sunrise said:
((((Rhapsody))))

Does he want to stay in the relationship? Or does he want to separate also, but have you leave the house? How old are your kids?
Maybe he is worried he would not see the kids again and so doesn't want to leave for fear he'll lose touch with them and their lives.

Best of luck. That was a big step for you to tell your husband you wanted to separate, and it took a lot of courage.

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He wants to stay in the relationship....... he wants to work on fixing things and not just let 21 years of marriage go - 24 years in all.

The kids are almost grown men - they are 17 and 22.... the 22 year old is out of the house and 17 year old is a senior in high school and will be off to college next year, so not being a part of the their life is not a problem...... I think him not leaving is really about him not walking out on his family like his dad did to him and his mom / family when he was just 18 and graduating from high school - a very hard time for him emotionally.

I was honest with him and let him know that while I love him (and always will) I now find it hard to love him as a wife should love her husband...... I warned him ten years ago that this would happen one day (was happening) when I saw that our relationship was going down hill, but did he listen - NO!

I am feeling lost right now.... and with him not wanting to leave the house how do I move on with my life in order to figure out what I really want? - and remember I do not work, therefore, I cannot be the one to leave.