You are so right....decisions like this do need to be on tour own time of realizing the big picture of what is happening. Most of us want to give people the benefit of the doubt & don't want to feel like we are overreacting. The good thing about this is that you know you are convinced it's right & you aren't just doing something someone else told you to do. You have used your own wise mind to make the decision. Sorry you had to get to a struggle place before you realized it but that sometimes happens with a kind heart. Glad you have taken positive steps to care for yourself