Hi Bummy

Oh dear I you do have quite a problem. I think the trouble is that and injury serious enough to kick him out of the army will have made him very unhappy. BUt not only was he injured but he had a taste of this noble desire, to fight for his country, but then in no time that was snatched away from him, whic wont helpo either. Any job may feel very poor to him after training for hte army.

But what to do, hmmm, time may help I mean in someways he maybe grieving for the career and life he lost or he maybe still trying ot get over being injured. Talking can help but only if he wants to talk.

Can you find the man you married? Maybe in time but things will have changed him, experiences do. Being in the army would have changed him a bit but the bad experience of being injured and discharge will have made a big change.

He may also feel he has failed you, his daughter and his country in being discharged and so that could make him distant from you. It could be the same with family and friends. I really do not know. He probably does not know why he is so unhappy, it can be very hard to work that out and that can only come in time.

But in someways he had a dream, to serve his country, and that dream was shattered. And well that does make people unhappy.

I dont think there is a magic fix here. Time can make things clear at times but it could be a while before he seems like the man you married. I just wish I knew what to suggest.

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