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Old Apr 30, 2016, 05:21 PM
Michael 77 Michael 77 is offline
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Originally Posted by TerriLynn View Post
I have tried to rescue her twice, and each time it is thrown back in my face about how I am not better than her. Its like she feels guilt or obligation and that makes her angry so she lashes out at me. I am done helping, I wont ever do it again.
She feels shame when you try to rescue, and so she gets angry and self-righteous. Just let her be. When you can, let her know you care and will be there for her. But stop the rescuing behavior. You know that won't work and doesn't really help. It's not your job. Didn't cause it, can't cure it.
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