When someone is crying I do hug them but I have been thinking about it lately if I hug someone would I make them upset. So when my sister was crying in the hospital my mother is like why don't you hug her are you heartless? I was like what if I make her worse? So, that's basically how I respond when others cry of course I know instinctivity try and comfort them but there is other times where they may not want it and push me away and then I get annoyed and I get frustrated with myself for upsetting them and it overwhelms me.