Hmm, I don't know of your situation so I can only go on my experience for me it was the opposite I grew up with critical parents which has made me become kind of dependant of them because I get told over and over again that I can't take care of myself and I kind of never told her to screw it, do my own thing and I kinda regret it. I wish I had stepped out of that too nice and to fitting into her box which changes everyday. It is only now that I have realized I am caught in a lie living in a mold and I am unhappy when I could have her disapproval and do my own thing and be independant in myself. This is what is making me change my mind about independance and stepping out of my codependant position relizing I can't conform to her any longer and watch my identity and my life be molded into what she wants. I can't do it anymore so I will have to fight for her to stop doing all these things because it is costing me my identity is costing me everything. I can't live up to her anymore. I want to be out of this jail cell.