I'm not sure I should really say this as people will say that I'm being unsympathetic or aggressive. I'm going to play hard ball as everybody else is treading on egg shells so as not to hurt your feelings. With all these posts you are coming across as a bit of a fool, desperate and slightly pathetic, IMO anyway. What you really need is a friend, male or female, your own age who's lived a liFe and will tell you how things are and not how they are in your imagination.. The second thing women look for in a man after looks is confidence. Putting women on a pedestal is a recipe for disaster. Check out MGTOW and whilst I don't agree with everything they say it will help you get things in perspective. You seem very vulnerable and plenty of women will be only too happy to fleece you and then drop you. I wouldn't have gone down the dating site route. You need a thick skin and a certain level of ambivalence. What you are finding is what 95% of men get.
Your typical day sounds more like an 80 year in a care home than a lively, active 60 year old, interested in people and in living and in meeting people. Get out and meet people, do things, engage with people and if you meet someone, great. Wallowing in self pity isn't attractive to anyone. If you want sex and you have money go to Thailand. You like travelling, I think. I'm probably wasting my time and you'll probably just take offence. I don't really care. I'm really not unsympathetic as I'm in ,kind of, the same situation but you need to wake up and smell the coffee. And not in the coffee shop.