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Default May 01, 2016 at 09:39 AM
 
I think much depends on the context and the relationship as PinkFlamingo said. I wouldn't find those kinds of comments or a spontaneous hug inappropriate if it had come from my therapists, but they were very professional, caring, authentic individuals with absolutely no motives other than to lift me up and help me feel better about myself. They were NEVER inappropriate or "creepy" in any way. It is a shame that a compliment is automatically assumed to to have illicit purposes anymore.

Much depends on the therapist and your relationship. If it is bothering you, then perhaps you need to discuss it with the therapist though. I just don't personally assume inappropriate motives when I receive a compliment from a man, including my therapist.

Just last night I was introducing my family, including my husband and sons, to chorus members, and every last man complimented me to my husband in terms of "your lovely wife" or this "pretty lady" or whatever. They aren't dirty old men and certainly weren't being inappropriate, they are just of a generation that uses terms of endearment like that. I understand that (my husband and I are of that same generation) and could simply smile and say thank you.

This therapist may just simply be being kind and complimentary, but it if makes you uncomfortable, speak him about it.
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