So my friend and I have been kind of fighting for about the past seven months. We used to talk all of the time on Facebook and Snapchat, 300 to 500+ messages a day. We used to joke around with one another and all of our messages had this fun, relaxed tone to them. We talked about anything and everything including highly personal topics. I considered him my best friend. Then around the first of September, I started picking up on a change in all of this. The amount we talked started decreasing and the overall tone became more tense. I knew he was having family problems and that he was slipping into depression. By the first part of October, we were only messaging one another 5 to 10 times every day or two. He had also gotten involved with an online gaming group that he was spending all of his time with and developed a lot of resentment toward me when I questioned that group and why our friendship had been the way it was. Throughout the winter it was a roller coaster ride to say the least. My depression has hit above the severe level because of what has been happening and being blamed for everything. Recently, we had a few heart to heart conversations and it seems like things are on the right track now and are improving. However, I still feel in my gut that when we talk there is still some tension and resentment there even though he assures me that there isn't. I believe him when he says that, but there's something on my side of things that's making me think this but I can't figure it out. I have also learned that he has a couple of new friends, one in particular, that he is talking with all of the time now and hanging out with a lot. He's now talking with this person the amount that we used to talk, but we are still only messaging back and forth about 20 times. I understand 100% that this is a jealousy issue, but I am very upset that he is talking with this person and not me. I feel like I have been replaced. Our level of conversations and the level of trust that we once had isn't here, and the connections that we shared seems to not be here anymore either. Maybe it's just going to take time to get built back up after this falling out that we had, but maybe not either.
Anyway, I was just wanting to ask for any advice that you may have to help me through this situation and through these feelings that I am experiencing. I really care for my friend and I want him to see me as his best friend too just like he used to. What can I do to help rebuild this friendship and trust back to the way it was?
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