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Originally Posted by Cavegirl
Hello again.
May I ask what type of relationship you have with your daughter? I sense an apprehension on your part to have a heart to heart. She is likely the only one that will be able to enlighten you. This will ultimately cast aside the assumptions, and bring you some real answers. You do deserve these answers. You are clearly very hurt. You are absolutely allowed to hurt. I wasn't the greatest communicator in my teen years...not much better now. Please, approach her and ask her how she feels and why she feels the way she does. Maybe the answers will be unpleasant, or maybe they won't. Teen years are rough. Being a teenage girl is extremely difficult. Ask her how she feels...
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My relationship with my daughter has been more strained and challenging as she has gotten older. Even more so after getting re-married and having wife tell daughter that she will not accept, herself or me, being back talked or mistreated by her. Of course I supported this decision and stance as well. Up until the time when she turned 18 I 'forced' daughter to attend visitation trying to get her to a point of understanding that things are not as bad as daughter is trying to portray them but with few exceptions attitude and actions from daughter ended up having negative impact on the rest of the family or visit. Of course the portrayal of daughters actions to others she then gets 'support' and even 'encouragement' from them at least until a time in which I am able to share the rest of the situation but by that time with the strained relationship I have with grandma it is usually many months later if at all. I don't expect daughter to have great communication skills as she still is learning them and is pretty young to have that great of them so I work with as much of what I see and have knowledge of her as I have done since she was a baby.