I used to not question this stuff. I went to therapy because that's what people do. Having been hurt (traumatized actually) badly in the process, I now question all of it. Having these attachments and emotional dependencies with paid consultants whose investment in my life is tenuous at best… I cannot convince myself now that this is part of the natural order of things. Seems more like an aberration. The natural order is authentic, spontaneous relationships rather than illusory, contrived ones. YMMV.