Sorry to be a nuisance posting another thread about my friend but she mean's a lot to me and i want her to be happy instead of ignoring her needs for others.

Don't get me wrong i love helping others out and putting them first but i realise when i need to take care of myself or if i'm just trying to please others by ignoring what i like and dislike. I stumbled along Emotional Dysphoria and ADHD in a post online and it got me wondering if my friend has this trait.

My friend has a tendancy to say/do/act a certain way in order to fit in with 'the norm' this goes as far as her pretending to support football teams she doesn't like and ignoring what she wants to do if someone she likes/loves disproves of it.... Which makes me wonder is she scared to stand out, be unique and honest to herself or is she trying to fit in by pretending to be compatible to those she puts on a pedastool.

At one point she put me on a pedastool but soon realised that if our friendship didn't last she would be resentful of having a close friendship. ( i personally think i'm not a good enough friend to her i feel like i am an old friend now../ her new friends seem alot more cooler and prettier anywho....)

She always neglects her needs for others in an attempt to please them but always feel burnt out. How can i help her get out of that habit or failing that encourage her to express herself without being judged or criticised? Can anyone relate?

Thanks

Claire