So before you got attached to her, you might not have noticed or thought much about it? That's how it happened with me. It was ok until I got really attached to him.

My T is a blank slate some of the time, which draws out my feelings very intensely. Sometimes he answers my questions asking about him, other times he puts it back on me. It's never really the same. But one thing he rarely does is share his feelings with me. He shares his thoughts at times, but not feelings.

I think this is where trouble lies for those of us having a history of childhood neglect-the lack of emotional connection is overwhelmingly painful. It repeats how it was like growing up for us. To sum it up--being unloved.

And for me, the repetition of feeling unloved in this relationship with my T makes me feel really bad about myself.