The one time I came close to crying (tears in eyes, biting my lower lip to stop the water works), I could hear T saying, "stay with the feelings...". When it was obvious I wasn't going to go all out and cry, T said, in a very low, compassionate voice, "you're repressing so much." I thanked T in our next session for talking to me - it was helpful to know s/he was close and hanging in with me. It's tough. First time is always hardest.