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Old May 03, 2016, 12:54 PM
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The idea of the therapist thinking they get to say themselves and work and together at me makes me nearly homicidal at the woman. She has not tried it in a while.
Interesting that it makes some people feel less alone. For me, I don't think she does any work and the idea of her thinking she is together with me is so presumptuous and insulting that I practically sputter
it probably wouldn't bother me that much if my T said something along the lines of working together, but just yesterday she started off the session by saying that while she has some knowledge on human behavior and development, and has theories in general on what helps people feel better, she is no expert, and I am the one that knows me and has to help her (this is if I feel stuck, which is a big problem for me). I thought that was very honest and true.
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I have found attempts to normalize or whatever it would be called, to often seem, to me, more dismissive than anything else. I don't find it helpful for myself.
My students sometimes respond okay to it and sometimes not. It is a tricky technique in my experience.
I also dislike normalizing too, which thankfully my T doesn't do too much. It doesn't make me feel any better that others might feel the way I do.