As sad as it is, he may have to let them go; they are never going to be there for him, celebrate who he is, etc. People who lecture others about "not being good enough"---they are usually talking about THEMSELVES.

People who dislike themselves (abusive people, jealous, etc) take it out on others. The book, Boundaries is a life saver. I strongly recommend it!

PS. In other words, YOU will have to be the loving supportive family....he never had. Did you know that abuse raises your cortisol levels and cortisol damages the immune system....no one is worth being around that can do that to you/him. His mental and physical health depends on staying away from toxicity and abuse.......having a baby is always strressful, so celebrate each other and the joyous occasion.

I became the mother I always wanted to have (toxic, crazy mother) and thereby nurtured myself and my children. He can do the same thing; be the dad he always needed.