I'm 41 and my girlfriend is 51. She is a spit fire. Very attractive, youthful and ready for anything I can throw at her. In some cases, she lives a younger more active life than me! Lower your standards and look for someone in your own age range. I've dated younger girls and it's always great at first but then we hit a wall because we don't have a lot in common. There is a whole world out there that us 40 somethings don't know much about. Let the 20 somethings live their life. You have nothing in common with them and will end up feeling like a really old man.