I don't think he means to mouse. I know he is scared I could get so bad I have a physical reaction. I just wish it weren't the case. He does say he doesn't want me to keep controlling it all the time but just when it gets to intense and could be dangerous, but to me is either in or out and since I know he is scared of the possibilities of "out" I feel I have to keep it in. We have talked about coping and skills to bring the emotions down and I understand the why, I just wish it didn't have to be.