I think you raise valid points. It cant be healthy to suppress a smoldering rage, and maybe exploding might be necessary at times. But too much catharsis or release can overwhelm the system apparently. I guess trauma experts say you have to go in and out carefully, pendulation one guy calls it, paying close attention to the body. Have you tried any somatic or body-oriented therapies?

If your T is scared and you are feeling encouraged to keep a lid on it, I wonder who is being protected?