Well, here's the problem...

Her health varies greatly day to day. There's been lots of times I planned something, but had to shelf it because of health problems.

So, I put together a date box: fun girly drinks, an expensive bottle of wine, candles, table cloth, music she likes, picnic blanket and picnic stuff, nice skin lotion, movies she likes, and other stuff.

I keep some nice clothes pressed and ready to go, and some items she likes in the kitchen so I can even make a late meal on the spot.

Then, I made a coupon book, and presented it to her. I still plan date nights, but if there is a night that she is feeling good, and on the spot she wants some wine and dine romance, she just cashes in a coupon.

A date coupon immediately veto's any other plans, including gym, housework, meeting with friends, etc., and means, put the kids to bed early because we're dating tonight.