The issue of sexual harassment just really gets to me. Him trying to down play your concerns about sexual harassment as a joke just makes me angry. Even if the girls didn't mind him saying it, he shouldn't have said it. That's the simple truth.

I can understand loving someone when all the signs say you shouldn't. It feels like you're trying to excuse or justify his behavior by using the excuse that the relationship was in a bad place. But, think about it this way... When you felt like the relationship was in a bad place, what did you do? You decided to overcome your worries and trust him again. When the relationship was in a bad place, what did he do? Start messaging other people. The two of you had completely different reactions. You put the relationship first; he put himself first.

I really feel that the two of you are just not on the same page, not when it comes to your relationship or your values.