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Perhaps it wasn't that you terminated with her too soon; rather, maybe you just weren't connecting with this particular therapist. Are you able to find someone else to work with? It sounds like you still have the need and the desire to work with a T-- but maybe not that T in particular. That's ok. Sometimes it takes more than one try to find someone you can establish a relationship with. Or sometimes you do have a relationship, but you've worked all you can with that person. That's what happened with my 1st T. We worked together consistently for about two years, then on and off for a little while after. Then we mutually decided to terminate, but I realized afterwards that in no way was I done with therapy-- I didn't feel as though I should go back with her though, I felt it was time to move on. Eventually I moved on to another T, but after only a couple of weeks, it really didn't work out. Then I found my current T and it's been working out great for two years.

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Yep, I was not connecting with her because she did not assume any responsability for the anxiety and stress that the group she was supervising caused me. At some point, she asked me, "What are YOU GOnna do about this impasse we've reached?" I had trusted that she knew what she was doing and that she cared about my physical and psychological safety. But she didn't. I had a serious car accident a day after one of our very heated debates. I say DEBATES because that's what many of our sessions became. Also, I almost flunked that semester because it was very difficult for me to concentrate.
I can't afford to see a T that has a private practice. All the other Ts that are employed by the university I attend to, are under the supervision of my former T. Unless...I do a search of what other nearby universities have to offer.
Thank you for sharing your experience about choosing Ts. I didn't know that it could take a number of trys before you find someone with whom it goes along well. One of the reasons I stayed as long as I did with my former T is that I thought that I had to get it right with her.
I am glad that your current T is helpful