My marriage counselor has shared lots of personal stuff, including that he has an anxiety disorder, too (like me). I don't really tend to react much to it. Once a year or so ago when he was talking about how he was helping his daughter deal with her anxiety when she was a few years younger, and it was very similar to anxiety I'd experienced at that age. H went to the bathroom, and I said to MC, "Is your daughter doing better now?" and then I quickly added, "You don't have to answer if you don't want!" and he was like, "Yes she is, thank you."

Then there was the stuff with his wife. Where he said some stuff, I overheard something in the waiting room, then he shared this other story in session (relating to something with H and I), and I kind of put the pieces together and realized his wife had a chronic illness that required someone to always be there with her at all times. (I knew someone in his household did, but thought maybe it was an elderly parent or something). It made me sad to realize it was his wife. I debated asking him about it, talked about it with T first (same practice), and then ended up sharing what I thought in session, saying he didn't have to talk about it if he didn't want to. He confirmed what I'd figured out, without being specific about the illness (I think it's MS or something like that), and answered the questions I asked. I could tell he felt awkward talking about it, even though he tends to share quite a bit from his personal life. Anyway, that was 4 or 5 months ago, and I haven't said anything about it since (though there was one story he told where he was talking about a "relative," where I'm pretty sure it was his wife, and I thought about being like, "You can just say it's your wife, it's OK," but then thought better of it.)

So I wouldn't bring it up again unless she does. Or unless you're talking about something around that topic, then, maybe.